Has it ever happened to you that when you snuggle up to her, she will say ? I do not want to have sex tonight, dear; I have a headache?

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Do you at times have to do a lot of coaxing and persuasion in order to nudge her into sex?

Are you faced with any of the following symptoms ?

(a) 1-2 times per month
(b) Sex becomes a chore
(c) Do not feel intimate after sex
(d) You do not have any sexual fantasies about your partner
(e) It seems only one of you are more keen on sex
(f) There is no sense of adventure or spontaneity in sex
(g) Neither of you are frisky in the bedroom any more

If you have one or more of the above symptoms, you are probably facing the situation of a low-sex marriage.

In whatever category you and your partner find yourself belong to, chances are you may still have experienced your share of sexual rejection in your relationship. You may have had to endure a period of ?drought? when your partner is not in the mood for sex. While some couples do not see this no-sex or low-sex situation as an issue, it can be a cause for concern to others. This is especially so when one party is never in the mood and the other is always quite keen.

If you have this problem of no-sex or not enough sex in your relationship, here are the 6 tips that will help you to improve sexual intimacy

(1) Share sexual expectations

It is necessary that partners discuss with one another their sexual needs and wants particularly in relation to the regularity or frequency aspects. Ask your partner how often and when he or she would like to be intimate. Does he/she prefer making love in the morning or at the end of the day?

Through this exchange of views, both of you may be closer to a common set of expectations than you may think. If there are big differences in these expectations, jointly come up with a plan that can take into consideration each other?s needs and giving some room for compromise.

(2) Recognize each other?s differences in sexual desire

It is very unlikely that your appetite, the amount of sleep you require, how sociable you are and other aspects of your personality will always be perfectly matched with your partner?s. Therefore it is nothing weird or abnormal if you want more or less sex than your partner. A couple must learn not to make this issue a deal-breaker. By seeing this as a very normal sexual issue, you can negotiate your sexual needs and talk about your sex lives in an honest and respectful way. It will then be possible to reclaim the intimacy and closeness you are both missing.

(3) Be respectful to the low sexual desire partner

If you are the one with a higher sex drive level, you have to accept that you may get less sex than you would ideally like. You have to learn not to over-react to a ?no? to sex and accept it respectfully. Avoid sexual bullying, begging or manipulating. This is indeed a very tough act to follow and it helps a lot when the low-desire partner can at the same time be more understanding of the high-desire partner?s needs.

(4) Get to the root of the problem

Remember that you cannot have good sex in a bad relationship. Probe deeper to see if there are any underlying resentment or anger from/towards your partner that act as an obstacle to greater intimacy. Hormonal fluctuations, medication, past sexual trauma, or undiagnosed illness can all have an impact on our sexual desire. Face up to all these issues and look for ways to resolve them. Seek professional help if you are unable to change things on your own.

(5) Strive for greater intimacy

Intimacy in a relationship is not automatic. It must be developed and nurtured through cultivating an environment characterized by mutual trust and respect, deep communication and time-together. You cannot be intimate if you do not talk and spend time with each other. Making your spouse?s needs a priority is an excellent way of breaking down the barriers to a great sex life.

(6) Sometimes have sex even if the mood is not there

If we just wait for the mood to come to have sex, some of us would never have it. This seems contradictory to what I said about learning to accept ?no? to sex. But marriage is all about mutual love and respect and compromise which involves at times giving way to his/her needs. Once you start the ball rolling and just do it, desire and arousal often follow.

For some people, kissing comes as naturally as it appears to be, for the great lovers on the big screen. But for the rest of us, we could probably use some handy tips on kissing, so our kissing techniques are successful in communicating just exactly what we are intending to converse. "You must remember this A kiss is just a kiss. A sigh is just a sigh. The fundamental things apply As time goes by." Beautiful song, but it's a bit misleading. The truth is that a kiss isn't just a kiss. A kiss communicates more in a moment than words can ever say. For a few people, kissing comes as naturally as it appears to be, for the great lovers on the big screen. But for the rest of us, we could maybe use some useful tips on kissing, so our kissing techniques are successful in communicating just exactly what we are intending to converse. Let us look at just a few of the mistakes and that kisser's make, and go onto some simple tips to help you along - Tight puckers. A tightly puckered kiss communicates to the recipient, "This kissing business is really gross, and I'd rather be doing anything else." It robs the moment of intimacy, warmth, and acceptance. One of the primary tips on kissing is that your lips should be loose, soft and relaxed. A gentle pucker is all you need, even if it is just a polite peck on the cheek that says, "I enjoy your company. You're special to me." - Adding tongue too soon. Yes, ultimately you will want to add some tongue to a passionate kiss, but it should be a build-up. Instead of injecting your tongue into your partner's mouth, a good kissing technique is to use it to gently moisten your partners lips, slowly and softly, taking note of signals inviting you to add your tongue, such as parting of lips or gentle suckling on your lips, they will naturally offer their tongue, at which point you go into tongue kissing. As passion builds and the gestures are obvious, you can use more tongue in intervals. Your tongue should be used as an extension of your lips, gently caressing around the lips and savouring just inside the mouth. - Attacking with your teeth. Your teeth can sometimes clash with theirs, especially when you attack your partner's mouth with so much force that your teeth are pressing into their mouth, you are going too far. Be careful to keep your teeth to yourself unless you are planning on using your newfound kissing techniques on a vampire. - Let your partner be the guide. If you are worried that your kissing is not up to par, let your partner kiss you, and simply react in a mirroring manner. Your partner will kiss you the way he or she likes to be kissed. If you return the favour by using the same methods, then you have a much better chance of a satisfying your partner - Add variety. It gets boring if you are using the same technique over and over. Start with a few gentle pecks. Then maybe kiss the lower lip a few times. Gently nibble their lips with your teeth. Change between greater and lesser passion in kissing. Do a little teasing with your lips, causing them to barely touch and then back away. - Not just the lips. Kissing other parts of the body can be arousing and sensual. Gently kissing the side of the neck does wonders as most people love being kissed on the neck. Experiment, and ask them what they like, then you are on to a sure winner

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Foreplay is a must in sex.

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This prepares the bodies to enjoy sexual nuances and give each partner the much needed warm up time to get into the mood. So try them out in a sequence.
1. The Precursor
It is always a good way to take initiation in Sexual Matters rather than waiting for your partner to do the same.
Just think that you and your partner have thoughtfully planned for a weekend. Even before you get back home, you start telling him how you are waiting just to grab him and touch and do the things you want to. He would get excited before you lay eyes on him.
The stage has to be set for a fantastic evening, stimulating all the senses. Fantasize about sexy scenes and thereby building your anticipation and creativity.
2. Have a Shower
Cleanliness leads to good sexual performance. A shower builds up your senses. It loosens muscles. It naturally increases your blood circulation thereby making you more receptive to sensual touch.
Better still, you could go in for a shower along with your partner, making it a good beginning of foreplay.
3. Bottom up Approach
It has been observed that during the foreplay, a lot of attention is given to face and upper abdominal parts. The lower body parts are neglected. Based on experience, it is always better to start from the bottom. Try out the toes first, then the legs, inner portion of thighs. This is one important erogenous region often neglected.
Kiss the backside of ankles, Blow on back of their knees. Stroking and massaging the inner and outer portions of the thighs helps in increasing the flow of blood to the genitals thereby making the genitals more receptive to touch and orgasm.
4. The Kisses
Start kissing in a very subtle and gentle manner on their lips. Then you can increase the kissing spreading to the back of neck, ear lobes and the love button.
You could start using your tongue enticing her to open her mouth. Start pressing your lips against hers with a bit more passion and harder.
Then once the partner is turned on you can move to explore the other erotic portions.
5. Using your teeth
Starts nibbling the breast gently and then slowly graze using your teeth as finger nails on the shoulders arms and hands.
Sucking the thumb creates slowly biting them while removing fro the mouth is very sensuous.
Slowly increase the sensitivity, physical and emotional.
6. Blind folding your partner
Whenever one of the senses is forcefully covered, the other senses heighten up Blindfolding is a good idea. It leads to anticipation as the person would like to use more of touch and feel.
Kissing and rubbing the bodies is a combination used. You could also use a chocolate for taste and as aphrodisiac. Important thing to remember is that foreplay should lead into an arousal for sexual intercourse. Hence, it should be gradual, slow and involve the bodies, completely exploring the erogenous portions.
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Ever wonder what is one of the things that kill sexual tension, attraction and arousal in a woman? This may be shocking to a lot of men because the answer to this question is trying too hard to please her! Indeed, we often hear the message that women want a lover who can put her needs first. On the surface, this statement seems correct and most women will nod in agreement to it. But if you talk to them more, they will admit that they do not want a guy who is just catering to her needs. She wants her man to enjoy the experience just as much as the guy wants her too. She does not want a guy who is overly concerned about whether or not she is enjoying it, so much so that he acts nervous to the extent that he gives away all of his masculine power to her. You may also have heard of that statement about women do not like men who are ?selfish in bed?. This statement is not quite right either. Selfish is not correct when a man forces his woman to do the things she does not feel comfortable with and in the process may hurt her. What I am talking about is a guy knows what he wants and is not afraid to get his woman to do the things that meet his needs. Women are turned on by men who are masculine and confident enough to be not ashamed of what they want and go for it. So, what can you do to get what you want in bed, without seeming selfish and in the process making her feel attracted and aroused? I shall narrow down the three basic requirements you can do to have what you want to the easy-to-remember term of ?ABC?, where A is Anatomy, B is Body Control and C is Communication.

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(1) Anatomy

Understanding female anatomy is the first thing you have to figure out so that you can know where to press the sensitive pleasure ?buttons? on her body to get her reach orgasm. Let me list down these pleasure centers for you

(a) The Clitoris

It is the biological equivalent of the male sexual organ and actually resembles one. You can find this erotic spot at the top of her opening. When a woman is aroused, it becomes filled with blood and gets erected, just like your member. Being quite delicate, you should not scratch, grind, bite or squeeze it.

The correct ways to stimulate this pleasure button are to use your clean and nail-trimmed finger(s) to softly rub it, to use your tongue to lick on it like you are enjoying ice-cream and to use your ?little brother? to tease it by rubbing the tip of your male hood against her clitoris.

(b) The Grafenberg Spot

Commonly known as the G-spot, it is the biological equivalent of the male prostrate gland. The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina just above the pubic bone. You can locate this area by sliding one or two of your lubricated fingers with your palm up about 2-3 inches deep. Keep your fingers curled as you stroke the area just above the pubic bone.

© Ears

Nibbling her little ear lobes, licking her ears or just under the lobe and as you get closer to her ears whisper something dirty can be very stimulating to some women.

(d) Neck

The most sensitive part of the neck where you can kiss on to have the maximum stimulation is the area along the jaw line and just above the collar bones.

(e) Lower Back

This part of the back that meets the buttocks is very sensitive because of the abundance of the little nerve endings there. If stimulated correctly when she is in a relaxed state, it can be erotic-ticklish.

(f) The Buttocks

Besides grabbing her buttocks, a more sensual way to stimulate this area is by way of tickling. You can use your fingers, a feather or anything else starting from her back and moving slowly down to the butt.

(g) The Knees

The most sensitive part is the back of the knees which are quite ticklish to most women. But if she is relaxed, it can give exerting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks.

(h) The Feet

Use slow movements to make the foot rub can be a very sensual experience to her. Add some lotions to your palms to help you glide along her foot.

(2) Body Control

The next important thing to do is to have control over your erection. This is because controlling your body is something that she sees as a masculine and powerful characteristic.

Here are some ways to delay your orgasm:

(a) Practice contracting your PC muscles

PC muscles or pubococcygeus are located around your testicles, penis and anus and by contracting and relaxing them; you can better control your erection after some practices.

(b) Press on your perineum

The perineum is located between your anus and scrotum. During orgasm, the prostrate gland expands and then contracts to expel the ejaculation fluid. Pressing on the perineum will block the flow. You can get your woman to press the area or you can do it yourself.

(c) Slow down your breathing

When you are high in bed, either you hold your breathing or you breath becomes rapid. By controlling your breathing by slowly it down, you are more able to delay your orgasm.

(d) Stop and start over again

(i) When you are getting high and going further will cause you to ejaculate, you quickly pull out to let the sensation pass and do other things to stimulate her.
(ii) Another way to do this by means of masturbation. When you masturbate, you are in certain ways practicing for intercourse. It is the best time to learn how to control your orgasm. You can practice your orgasm control by bringing yourself to the edge of orgasm and then stop and calmly bring yourself back to normal. It is very important to keep yourself calm throughout the whole process.

(3) Communication

Have you ever noticed that if some guys you know tell you that you are doing something wrong, you will feel it is no big deal and forget about the matter after two minutes? But if the woman you love behave like the guys do, you feel hurt and embarrassed. Men tend to take suggestions and frankness from their loved ones as a blow to their egos.

That is why it can be difficult for you to build this sexual connection with her. She is terrified of being so completely vulnerable with you for fear of rejection or provoking you. It is only when you establish this connection with her that she is able to totally surrendering herself to you sexually. That is when you can make her orgasm, literally at will.

To achieve this, you have to keep an open mind and not to regard her feedback as criticism. You are not a mind reader nor should she expect you to be. Encourage open communication at all times, even when you are in the middle of the act. Her feedback is very useful in helping you to figure out what you can do to turn her on.

Ahhh...Remember when you first got together

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it was exciting and thrilling and you would have great sex. Time has passed and things are not quite as exciting. Yes it happens to everyone, but it doesn't have to stay that way. Here are 6 tips for sex that will spice things up so you will both have great sex again.

You don't have to become a sexual dynamo overnight-- you'll overwhelm your partner! But if you just make one or two changes at a time with these tips for sex, you will make that sexual connection spark and keep that sexual energy.

1. Keep It Fresh - Sometimes couples get stuck in the habit of repeating same sex routine they learned when they first got together. It worked and it was exciting at first, but now it's old and now you need tips for sex to get better. To have great sex you need to be comfortable to talk to your partner and together find out tips for sex, what each would like to do or what needs are not met.

2. Rediscover Each Other's Body - Take the time to rediscover each other. Set the stage so you won't be disturbed: candles, music, maybe even some finger food. Then each take turns slowly exploring each other's body, touching, licking, taunting. And the person being touched needs to say what feels good and what doesn't. Make it fun and exciting so you can have great sex.

3. Have Fun And Play - There are lots of books and websites that offer games and "toys" that can spice up your lust for each other. This is one of those tips for sex that intimidates people, but games can make you try new things which will keep sex exciting and new. Be open minded and try new things. You never know what new thing you will discover.

4. Watch And Listen - It is so important to watch and listen to your partner as they react to different stimulation. Did they moan here or there? Did their hips start to move when you did that? To have great sex pay attention and make mental notes to yourself. If you are getting a positive reaction to something, do it again! But don't forget to keep exploring for new things.

5. Don't Lose Yourself In We - Just because you are married or in a committed relationship doesn't mean you stop doing all the things that are important to you. And it does not mean you have to do everything together. Not only does absence make the heart grow fonder, but it can make you and your partner more interesting and exciting to each other. You fell in love with the things you had in common and the things that were different.

This also gives each of you time to grow outside the relationship. So yes, find things you like to do together, but it is good to pursue individual interests as well. Find the balance between these two.

6. Looks DO Count - Listen up, this is an important tip for sex. To have great sex you must be sure you are taking care of your body: eating right, working out (even if it is just walking), showering, shaving, grooming. This means both of you! And dress sexy; again this means both of you. When you were dating, you tried to put on your best appearance. Don't forget to do that now. Part of sex is the physical attraction, so make sure you both look your best.
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Today we are going to learn the simple yet highly effective ways of having highly enhanced and long lasting sex. 1. Exercise Turning On and Off This tip is for men. I want you to exercise a skill which is useful for exponentially increasing your success in sexual performance. Females get turned on when they can not predict what your next move is going to be? Kiss their lips a bit then sit back. Allow them to ask for more. Caress them and suddenly move to kiss their neck a thousand times.

Then again watch them straight in their eyes.It gives them a feeling of a natural progression from initial kiss to foreplay and finally the climax.
2. Eye Contact Most of the men are guilty of not having enough eye contact with the woman they are making love to. Women love to have their male counterparts coming closer and looking straight into their eyes while nibbling their breasts or kissing their lips very delicately. Remember. The key here is to experience the most fantastic gift that God has given to mankind. What better way than to see it all. And above all eyes speak a lot than words do.
3. Every time use a new prop To kill monotonous sexual practice you need to have a different prop every time.
It could be:
1.) Scented oil for massaging.
2.) Chocolate.
3.) Vibrator.
4.) Scarf.
And the list goes on...Use the entire place available in the room. One cool place could be the floor. Spice up your sex life with a different and pleasing prop.
4. Talk to her slowly in her ears The most sensuous organ according to me is the ear. Women love when men kiss and move their finger tips on their ear lobes. Notice the goose bumps that they get and mention that slowly in their ears. Tell them slowly what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation. For example: If you are going to kiss their tits. Mention it to them and then slowly do it. They would enjoy it.
5. Use Finger tips Men should use their finger tips for moving all along your partner's divine body. Caress them .Slowly move your fingers from the shoulder to the back of their neck and on their back side while kissing them. Curl your fingers around their breasts and just move the finger tips on their lips to feel them.Women would hold you tight once they get aroused by these movements.
These are initial ways of arousal.

On average, a man lasts anywhere between 5 to 10 minutes during sex. 93% of all men wish they could last longer during intercourse. Here are 5 tips on how to last longer during intercourse and slow down your orgasm. 1. Become the king of masturbation.

How is that going to help you stay last longer during intercourse? The trick is to think about the woman?s orgasm while masturbating instead of your own. Practice this until you can hold out for 15 minutes by bringing yourself to the edge but not ejaculating until those 15 minutes are over.

2. If things are heating up too much, too fast while having sex, squeeze your penis just below the head. The pressure on the urethra will push the blood out of your penis and slow down you urge to ejaculate.

3. Recognize the moment you cannot hold off your orgasm any longer. Use a rating system for this from 1 to 10, 10 being orgasm. Try to stay below 8 as long as possible.

4. The world famous Kegel exercises will also help you stay hard longer in bed. Once you learned these Kegel exercises you can practice them anywhere (at work, in the car,?)

5. Don?t thrust like a jackhammer if you want to last longer during intercourse. Instead, push the head of your penis into her clitoral head and concentrate on the entrance of her vagina. This spot has the most sensitive nerve endings. So only penetrate the first 2 to 3 inches with small, shallow movements.

These 5 tips on how to last longer during intercourse will greatly improve your sex life if you follow them. Some of the exercises will take some time to take effect.

What causes a woman to dislike having sex and why she likes to keep it this way? Can a guy do anything to reverse this? Here are 5 ways to make sex fun for you and her. Why Does A Woman Hate Having Sex Before trying to overcome the barriers to a great sex life, it will be useful to understand what causes her to dislike having sex. Even though most women are able to voice out their unhappiness, some choose to hide their feelings. If your woman behaves in this manner, both of your sex life can be seriously affected. Sexual intercourse will be like going through the motion because he is not emotionally and sexually connected to you. Worse still, she may withhold sex and use this as a bargaining chip. A woman who feels been neglected by her partner or whose husband cheated on her can impede her desire to connect sexually. For her, there is a lot of wrong in the relationship and sex is no easy remedy. If the guy refuses to face up to this issue by seeking out ways to resolve the problem by open discussion or getting professional help, then chances are he will not find a willing, passionate sex partner. Of course, there are some women who never, ever actually enjoy having sex. While some will try to work this out with their men in looking for ways to get the most out of their sexual relationship, others are resigned to the idea that sexual frustration is with them to stay. With expectations significantly lower, she will not be able to have orgasm. How To Fix A Low-Sex Relationship While there is no guarantee of a quick fix, the following ideas should at least start the ball rolling before the situation gets too serious to require the services of a counselor or therapist. (1) Pay attention to her It is every guy?s responsibility to become intimately well-informed with the woman he wants to have great sex with. You need to pay attention to her signals in daily life. You need to know what she likes and dislikes and to understand what makes your woman feel angry, hurt, insecure or loved. (2) Avoid making her feel being treated as a sex object While a man offers love to have sex, a woman needs to feel emotionally connected before she can get in the mood for making love. If you are only nice to her when you want to have sex with her, she will only feel that you are treating her as a sex object. A woman?s main sexual organ is her brain. If you do not work on her brain by making her feel loved and respected as your partner and wife, she is not going to get turned on by way any of your sexual techniques. Therefore treat her with kindness and consideration in and outside the bedroom. (3) Assure her When she is naked, assure her with appropriate comments and touching. Women who worry about the way they look down there are less likely to orgasm easily during sex. According to a study done by the Journal Of Sex Research, women who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual experience and are less sexually assertive. (4) Strengthen emotional intimacy This can be done by having real communication with each other regularly, which I mean both talking and listening attentively. If there are any disagreements, resolve them as soon as you can to guard against the storing up of anger and resentment. There is also a need to make an effort to spend time together. Couples who can relate well with one another and share activities together tend to be more active in sex. (5) Enjoy the process and not to be concerned over the outcome There is a need to recognize that sex is not always perfect. You have to learn to relax and surrender to the moment and simply enjoy the process. If the outcome is not what you expect, see this imperfection as an enriching experience and a chance for you to improve on it later. http://adf.ly/LU4KA

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Having sex on your period won't appeal to everyone but it can offer a surprising benefit. With your libido increasing as your menstrual cycle approaches, your vagina

is likely abuzz with a multitude of extra sexy senses. And that means that having sex during your period actually makes having an orgasm that much easier to achieve.

Follow these tips to help you get over any inhibitions and tap in to the likelihood of quicker, stronger, orgasms during sex on your period.

6 TIPS FOR SEX ON YOUR PERIOD

1. The best rule for having sex on your period is that you don't have to jump in and go crazy on the first day of your period. It will be messier and for some a little sensitive, so wait a day or two before giving it a go.

2. If you feel self conscious about any odour, use a strongly flavoured condom to help mask any smell. However, having a shower beforehand is the best way to prevent any odour.

3. Always discuss with your partner what you are both comfortable with beforehand. If sex on your period for you doesn't include cunnilingus then there are plenty of other ways to stimulate you. Keep in mind that although oral sex during menstruation can be even more of a taboo than just intercourse, many couples do actually participate in it. So aside from a possible metallic taste, having cunnilingus while you are menstruating is nothing to afraid of and can be done safely between two committed partners.

4. It goes without saying that having sex on your period is always best when you are totally clean. Have a shower beforehand and if you're still not completely confident due to the 'ick' factor, stick to the positions that will create less mess. Missionary is a good way to start out with a dark towel underneath you to spare your sheets. Have a shower together afterwards so you will feel at your sparkling cleanest best.

5. Having said that, sex on your period is always an excellent excuse for shower sex. Get hot and steamy together in the shower without having to worry about your natural lubrication washing away. Your period makes you naturally more wet allowing for slippery sensuous shower sex.

6. If sex on your period all seems too messy you could consider the sponge to avoid messy period sex. Available from most pharmacy's, the sponge is a small natural or synthetic piece of sponge, that is inserted up in to the vagina to absorb menstrual flow. Once removed it is rinsed and washed for use again. If inserted high enough, it can stop the flow of blood during sex and should also be undetectable to your partner. The advantages are obvious, but retrieving it with your fingers can be tricky a task.

The winds of change are blowing through the military establishment.

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It is clear that openly gay service personnel are an inevitability and that "Don't ask, don't tell" is on its way out.

These days Defense Secretary Robert Gates, a man trusted by both political parties and the service chiefs, has a message for them all: if we are to manage the end of "Don't Ask, don't tell" the way we want it... we had best act quickly before the civilian courts step in and tell us what to do. Change is inevitable, he says, but handling it our way is not.

Right now, various judges, their itchy fingers and intrusive court orders at the ready, are giving the military time to sort out their own house. But the clock is ticking... ticking.

Secretary Gates reminds all that "Don't ask, don't tell", that invidious, unconstitutional, discriminatory policy that has kept military gays locked firmly in the closet since the Clinton Administration is moving inexorably into the scrap heap of history's lousy ideas. He aims to be on the right side as inevitability unfolds.

Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Admiral Mike Mullen knows it, too. He's on board with the new political realities as are all savvy officers who can see the way the wind blows.

But, conspicuously brand-new Marine Commandant James Amos is not. To the increasing embarrassment of the military establishment, General Amos has become a fountainhead of notoriously unpersuasive insipidities on the subject:

One by one, the panjandrums of the military have thrown in the towel and taken up the new party line, admitting that gays (imagine!) have been serving, are serving and will serve in every service with distinction... what is the big deal, after all?

General Amos, new kid on the block, Bourbon-like, has learned nothing and forgotten nothing. Bourbon-like he has now become the problem... and you know what happened to these clueless French monarchs.

If his military brethren have weakened and strayed, he most assuredly has not. Why just the other day he uncorked this sour vintage, designed to frighten Marine parents everywhere:

"I don't want to have any Marines that I'm visiting at Bethesda (Naval Medical Center) with no legs be the result of any kind of distraction."

This, of course, is demagoguery of the worst kind... seeking to support an outmoded policy through fear mongering. It defines the man's approach to this issue. If he cannot have victory, he can at least have the last word. (But there is that in him which feels that even now, against all odds, he can still have victory. After all he is a Marine... and that is enough.)

Should we abolish "Don't ask, don't tell," he emphasizes, your Marine son, who needs to focus on winning the engagement and staying alive, could well face and would have to respond immediately to unwanted sexual advances from deviate members of the corps who could use war to get sex. Thus, instead of moving against the enemy, your comely lad would be distracted... even unto the ultimate sacrifice.

"I wonder who's kissing him now."

In 1909 America danced to and hummed along with a catchy Gilded Age pop tune, "I wonder who's kissing her now." This lilting waltz, with changed gender, now appears to be running through General Amos' fetid mind:

"I wonder who's kissing him now, I wonder who's teaching him how? Wonder who's looking into his eyes? Breathing sighs! Telling lies! I wonder if he's got a boy? The boy who once filled me with joy, Wonder if he ever tells him of me? I wonder who's kissing him now."

Fascinated, revolted, the licentious scene is painfully clear to the general. As the enemy's attacks intensify, as the enemy moves in, as your son's full concentration is earnestly required... he has to fend off an amorous corpsman intent on nookie instead of self-protection... and victory. Oh, my.

Imagine, they sleep together. The general cannot forget.

The Marine Corps, unlike other services, houses a pair of people in a room, collegiate style. This, they say, promotes "unity." Perhaps, as the general worries, too much so. Here's what he said in November, 2010 in a statement that alerted the politically sensitive to the problem they faced in General Amos:

?There is nothing more intimate than young men and young women ­ and when you talk of infantry we?re talking of our young men ­ laying out, sleeping along side of one another and sharing death, fear and loss of brothers,? General Amos said. ?I don?t know what the effect of that will be on cohesion. I mean, that?s what we?re looking at. It?s unit cohesion, it?s combat effectiveness.?

It's buncombe.

The general says, and no doubt believes with all the power of the last pterodactyl, that men of a certain sexual orientation will during combat do things other than everything they can to stay alive. Does anyone else concur with this lapse of insight and intellect?

Let's be clear: men, women, gay, straight during combat they will all focus on staying alive, then on achieving the objective. Sexual orientation does not change this truth one iota.

As a result, basing his case on a rancid fallacy, this general of antiquated views and big mouth lumbers on, embarrassing the president, the military establishment, and every thinking Marine; all of them with gay friends and colleagues and absolutely no problem serving with them worldwide.

Then what of General Amos? So newly installed, he has already committed political hara kiri, still walking and too much talking, but of no earthly consequence. The Marine Corps deserves better. Fortunately, in due course, as General Amos keeps talking, they will get it. For such a man with such views has besmirched Semper Fi. And that will never do.
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